When a Filipina escapes Filipino family values and is rewarded—while a foreigner who takes them on is shamed and discarded.
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⚠️ INTRODUCTION
I didn’t come to the Philippines to fight institutions.
I came here to build a family.
To raise my son.
To live by the values this country says it holds sacred.
But those values weren’t protected.
Not by the mother of my child.
Not by the Barangay.
Not by the police.
Not by DSWD.
Instead, they defended someone who abandoned her child, lied, cheated, and retaliated.
They defended her—not because she was right, but because she was Filipina.
And me?
I lived the values more than she did.
But because I was a foreigner, they turned their backs on me.
🧠WHAT ARE FILIPINO VALUES?
We hear them all the time:
- Pagmamahal sa pamilya – Love for family
- Katapatan – Loyalty
- Delicadeza – Moral conscience
- Pananagutan – Responsibility
- Pakikisama – Harmony and respect in the community
But when my son was taken from me without court order…
When the mother who had already walked away suddenly returned just to control the narrative…
And when I asked for help from authorities—
These values disappeared.
They weren’t applied.
They weren’t enforced.
They weren’t protected.
🔍 A FILIPINA WHO SPOKE THE TRUTH
This isn’t just my story.
A Filipina herself recently posted this warning to foreign men:
“To all foreign men who want to marry a Filipina, make sure that the Filipina you are talking to online or dating in the Philippines is not married.
There are rare cases where the husband agrees that his Filipina wife will date a foreign man.
When the foreigner visits the Philippines, the husband will leave their house and let the foreign man sleep with his wife.
When the foreign man leaves, the husband comes back and lives with her again, and they both enjoy the monthly allowance.
I feel sorry for those innocent foreign men whose intentions are good…
But always remember, there are only two kinds of people in the world—the good and the bad, regardless of nationality.
If you find a good one, you will never regret it.”
Her words—not mine. But I lived it.
The lies. The abandonment. The silence.
Then the smear campaign, the BPO, the concealment.
And all the while—the system rewarded her and punished me.
✝️ AND WHAT ABOUT GOD?
This is a nation that calls itself Christian.
Where people go to church on Sundays.
Where they post Bible verses.
Where they say “Marriage is sacred” and “Family is everything.”
But in the Bible, adultery wasn’t just wrong—it was punishable by death.
It was the ultimate betrayal.
So what is the point of religion here—
If adultery is rewarded with custody, protection, and sympathy?
What is the point of wearing a crucifix—
If you’ll crucify the man who stayed loyal,
And protect the one who tore the family apart?
If you truly believe in God—
If you fear judgment—
Then ask yourself:
When you defended betrayal and punished loyalty… whose side were you really on?
🤝 WHO WAS REALLY FILIPINO?
I stayed.
I cared for our son.
I gave her chances.
I protected my child, stayed through hardship, and lived the culture I wasn’t even born into.
Meanwhile, she ran from the very values that raised her.
She gave up motherhood, and then came back only to destroy what I had rebuilt.
And you sided with her.
You didn’t defend a Filipina.
You defended a foreigner in Filipina skin—
And erased a Filipino in foreigner skin.
🛑 THIS IS A CULTURAL CRISIS
This isn’t about me.
It’s about how easily this system rewards betrayal,
And punishes the people who actually live by Filipino values.
This isn’t just a custody fight.
This is a question for a nation:
If Filipino values no longer matter,
And those who abandon them are the ones being protected…
Then what are you actually defending?
🌱 TO BE CONTINUED…
This is only part of the betrayal.
When the very people tasked with protecting family—
Barangay officials, DSWD workers, even police—
Choose instead to protect those who are destroying it…
You begin to realize why mediation no longer means what it used to.
👉 Next post coming soon: “When the Mediators Betray the Culture.”