Children Aren’t Emotional Crutches — They Are Souls to Be Loved
Why would someone have a child—only to disappear from their life?
Why would a mother leave… and then suddenly come back, not to nurture, but to conceal the child from his father?
Especially after admitting she wasn’t ready?
Some people don’t become parents because they’re ready to give love.
They become parents hoping to receive it.
They expect a child will fill the emotional emptiness they’ve carried for years.
That the child will offer unconditional love, never leave, and make up for the pain.
My son wasn’t taken out of love.
He was taken to fill a void—to meet emotional needs, to regain control, to feel validated.
On December 27, 2023, while babysitting someone else’s child, the mother of my son messaged me:
“I know I should be looking after my own kid rather than others… I am very desperate on being independent… I know I was being a good mom and wife before. I just don’t know what I want right now. I honestly don’t know who I am anymore.”
And she followed it with:
“I know it seems like I’m abandoning our family. But my intention was only to give up on you—not being a mom. But it seems like I’m doing both… I feel so ashamed I can’t even face you anymore.”
Then she asked:
“So… you want full custody of Adri’el?”
I answered:
“Since I care about his future more—with discipline and no abandonment—it’s reasonable you have minimal custody.”
And she agreed:
“I guess you are right. I think he will be healthy with you for now. Not that I want him out of my life completely, but I believe I am not a healthy mom for him right now.”
Those weren’t courtroom statements.
They were honest admissions—shared freely when she felt secure in another relationship.
At that time, she didn’t need to perform.
She was emotionally supported. She didn’t feel threatened.
So she told the truth:
- That she was lost
- That she had stepped away from motherhood
- That I was the healthier parent for our son
Months later, that relationship ended.
The boyfriend left after learning she was still married and had a child.
She had never told him the full truth.
She admitted this to me directly. I reminded her:
“You can’t be meeting new people while hiding the fact that you have a child. It’s unfair—to them, and to your son. Because if he’s never part of the picture, the disconnect will only grow.”
I believe she hoped for sympathy. Maybe even reconciliation.
But I didn’t give in.
She realized I wasn’t coming back.
She lit a cigarette and put it out.
Shortly after that, the smearing began.
False accusations. Custody grabs. Character attacks.
Not because I failed.
But because I couldn’t be manipulated anymore.
And when validation from others dried up, she turned back to the only place she could still feel power:
Our child.
She didn’t take him out of love.
She took him to avoid feeling abandoned.
There’s a story everyone knows—the story of King Solomon and the two mothers.
One mother’s child dies, so she secretly swaps babies.
When they go before King Solomon, both claim to be the true mother.
So Solomon says:
“Cut the child in half.”
One woman agrees.
The other says:
“No—let her have him. Just don’t harm the child.”
That moment exposed the truth.
The real parent—was the one willing to let go to protect the child.
That’s what this feels like.
Modern systems don’t see hearts.
They see allegations, forms, and “he said, she said.”
But love shows itself in actions.
I never fought to possess my son.
I fought to protect him.
Even when it hurt.
Even when it cost me.
But silence won’t protect him now.
Because today, no one is asking:
“Who is truly acting in the child’s best interest—even if it means letting go?”
I regret not seeing the damage sooner.
But I won’t regret speaking now.
Because our son shouldn’t carry the weight of someone else’s emotional healing.
He deserves:
- Peace
- Stability
- A parent who isn’t using him to feel loved—
but is ready to give love, no matter what.
This is my personal story, based on real conversations and events. I’m not here to attack anyone—just to speak the truth I was never allowed to tell in court. All quotes were freely given, not fabricated or forced.
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